TEMPER TANTRUM:HOW TO TAME IT
Imagined yourself shoping with your children (ages 1 to 4 year) in a busy department store.One of them has spied a toy that you don't intent to buy. Soon you find yourself at the center of a gale-force temper tantrum. Everyone's looking at you, and your face is burning with embarrassment.
Could you have prevented the tantrum? what's best response?, and why did this emotional meltdowns happen in the first place?
What Is Temper Tantrum?
Temper tantrum is an emotional outbreak, usually associated with or those in emotional distress, typically characterized by stubbornness, crying, yelling and swinging of arms and leg, anger ranting, a resistance to attempts pacification and in some cases, hitting. Physical control may be last; the person may be unable to remain still; and even if the 'goal' of the person is met,he or she may not be calmed.
Temper tantrum usually last 30 seconds to 2 minutes and are most intense at the start. Sometimes temper tantrum last longer and are more severe , the child may hit, bite and puch. These violent tantrums, in which children harm themselves or others , may be a sign of serious problem.
Images of children throwing tantrums
Why do Temper Tantrums Happen?
Most children ages 1-4 have temper tantrums everyday. Temper tantrum may happen when a child becomes frustrated while trying to button a shirt or is told it is time for by bed when he or she wants to stay up. Some children are more likely to have temper tantrums than other children. Thing that might make a tantrums more likely are:
How tired a child is
the child's age
the child's level of stress
whether the child has other physical,mental or emotional problems.
Parents' behavior also matters. A child may be more likely to have temper tantrums if parents react too strongly to poor behavior or give in to the child's demands.
Can Temper Tantrum be Prevented?
There might be no full proof way to prevent tantrums, but there is plenty you can do to encourage good behavior in even the youngest children.The following could be of help:
Plan ahead: If you need to run errands, go when your child isn't likely to be hungry or tired.If you're expecting to wait in line, pack a small toy or snack to occupy your child.
Be consistent: Establish a daily routine so that your child knows what to expect including nap time and bedtime.It's also important to set reasonable like limits and follow them consistently.
Encourage your child to use words: Young children understand many more words than they are able to express. If your child isn't yet speaking or speaking clearly, you might teach him or her sign language for a words such as "I want""more""drink""hurt" and "tired". The more easily your child can communicate with you,the less likely you are to struggle with tantrums. As your child gets older,help him or her put feeling into words
Let your child make choices: To give your toddler a sense of control, let him or her make appropriate choices."would you like to wear your red shirt or your blue shirt" then compliment your child on his or her choices.
Ways To Tame Your Kid's Tantrums
When your kid's in the middle of tantrum ,it can be tough to keep yourself from having your own meltdown too."meltdowns" are terrible, nasty things, but they're a fact of childhood "says Ray Levy,PhD, Dallas-based clinical psychologist.
These outbursts can be control as follows:
Ignore the kid: The reason this works is fascinating; During tantrum, your child is literally out of his/her mind. His/her emotions take over-- overiding the frontal cortex of the brain, the area that makes decisions and judgement "says Jay Hoecker,MD a Rochester, Minnesota pediatrician. No matter what you try,it will make it worst.once he or she chills out, then you can talk.
Give your child some space: Sometimes a kid just needs to get his/her anger out,so let him/her. Just make sure there is nothing that could hunt him/her it helps children learn how to vent in a non destructive way
Create a diversion: This is all about a deft mental switcheroo--geting your kid engaged and interested in something else so he or she forgets about the meltdown he/she was just having.
Avoided situation likely to trigger tantrum: If your child begs for toys or treats when you shop, steer clear of "temptation islands"full of eye level goodies.
Praise good behaviour: offer extra attention when your child behaves well. Give your child a hug or tell he or she how proud you are when he or she shares toys,follows direction and so on.Hug make kids feel secure and let them know you care about them.
Speak calmly: This is a biggie and is much easier said than done.But experts insists you must keep your cool during a child's tantrum.
As your child's self control improves, tantrums should become less common. Most children outgrow tantrums by age 5.If your younge child's tantrums seem especially severe,your older is still having frequent tantrums or the tantrums have pushed you beyond your ability to cope,share your concerns with your child's doctor.Early intervention can stem future behavioural problems and help your child succeed both at home and at school.
References
http://www.webmd.com/children/te/temeper-tantrums-topic-overview.
http://www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/discipline/tantrums/tame-your-kids-tantrums
http://en.m.wikipedia. org/wiki/tantrum
©2015 Elijah Otor
Email:elijahuwas@gmail.com
Imagined yourself shoping with your children (ages 1 to 4 year) in a busy department store.One of them has spied a toy that you don't intent to buy. Soon you find yourself at the center of a gale-force temper tantrum. Everyone's looking at you, and your face is burning with embarrassment.Could you have prevented the tantrum? what's best response?, and why did this emotional meltdowns happen in the first place?
What Is Temper Tantrum?
Temper tantrum is an emotional outbreak, usually associated with or those in emotional distress, typically characterized by stubbornness, crying, yelling and swinging of arms and leg, anger ranting, a resistance to attempts pacification and in some cases, hitting. Physical control may be last; the person may be unable to remain still; and even if the 'goal' of the person is met,he or she may not be calmed.
Temper tantrum usually last 30 seconds to 2 minutes and are most intense at the start. Sometimes temper tantrum last longer and are more severe , the child may hit, bite and puch. These violent tantrums, in which children harm themselves or others , may be a sign of serious problem.
Images of children throwing tantrums
Why do Temper Tantrums Happen?
Most children ages 1-4 have temper tantrums everyday. Temper tantrum may happen when a child becomes frustrated while trying to button a shirt or is told it is time for by bed when he or she wants to stay up. Some children are more likely to have temper tantrums than other children. Thing that might make a tantrums more likely are:
How tired a child is
the child's age
the child's level of stress
whether the child has other physical,mental or emotional problems.
Parents' behavior also matters. A child may be more likely to have temper tantrums if parents react too strongly to poor behavior or give in to the child's demands.
Can Temper Tantrum be Prevented?
There might be no full proof way to prevent tantrums, but there is plenty you can do to encourage good behavior in even the youngest children.The following could be of help:
Plan ahead: If you need to run errands, go when your child isn't likely to be hungry or tired.If you're expecting to wait in line, pack a small toy or snack to occupy your child.
Be consistent: Establish a daily routine so that your child knows what to expect including nap time and bedtime.It's also important to set reasonable like limits and follow them consistently.
Encourage your child to use words: Young children understand many more words than they are able to express. If your child isn't yet speaking or speaking clearly, you might teach him or her sign language for a words such as "I want""more""drink""hurt" and "tired". The more easily your child can communicate with you,the less likely you are to struggle with tantrums. As your child gets older,help him or her put feeling into words
Let your child make choices: To give your toddler a sense of control, let him or her make appropriate choices."would you like to wear your red shirt or your blue shirt" then compliment your child on his or her choices.
Ways To Tame Your Kid's Tantrums
When your kid's in the middle of tantrum ,it can be tough to keep yourself from having your own meltdown too."meltdowns" are terrible, nasty things, but they're a fact of childhood "says Ray Levy,PhD, Dallas-based clinical psychologist.
These outbursts can be control as follows:
Ignore the kid: The reason this works is fascinating; During tantrum, your child is literally out of his/her mind. His/her emotions take over-- overiding the frontal cortex of the brain, the area that makes decisions and judgement "says Jay Hoecker,MD a Rochester, Minnesota pediatrician. No matter what you try,it will make it worst.once he or she chills out, then you can talk.
Give your child some space: Sometimes a kid just needs to get his/her anger out,so let him/her. Just make sure there is nothing that could hunt him/her it helps children learn how to vent in a non destructive way
Create a diversion: This is all about a deft mental switcheroo--geting your kid engaged and interested in something else so he or she forgets about the meltdown he/she was just having.
Avoided situation likely to trigger tantrum: If your child begs for toys or treats when you shop, steer clear of "temptation islands"full of eye level goodies.
Praise good behaviour: offer extra attention when your child behaves well. Give your child a hug or tell he or she how proud you are when he or she shares toys,follows direction and so on.Hug make kids feel secure and let them know you care about them.
Speak calmly: This is a biggie and is much easier said than done.But experts insists you must keep your cool during a child's tantrum.
As your child's self control improves, tantrums should become less common. Most children outgrow tantrums by age 5.If your younge child's tantrums seem especially severe,your older is still having frequent tantrums or the tantrums have pushed you beyond your ability to cope,share your concerns with your child's doctor.Early intervention can stem future behavioural problems and help your child succeed both at home and at school.
References
http://www.webmd.com/children/te/temeper-tantrums-topic-overview.
http://www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/discipline/tantrums/tame-your-kids-tantrums
http://en.m.wikipedia. org/wiki/tantrum
©2015 Elijah Otor
Email:elijahuwas@gmail.com
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